Living in the moment is one of the things I’m not good at.
Like really not good at.
I’m a top-notch worrier. If they gave gold medals for worrying, I’d win one. Even if I have 10 exciting things going on in my life and only one worry-worthy thing, it never fails that I focus on the worrying.
And focus on it.
And focus on it.
One summer while I was in college, I went to see John Mayer in concert and during his finale he broke into the song he was singing with a few random lines (that aren’t generally a part of the song) that went “don’t be scared about next Tuesday, because Tuesday hasn’t happened yet.” Those lines have stuck with me after all these years because they describe how I WISH I could act sometimes. I always worry about and focus on things coming up in the distance and things that haven’t happened yet (or may not even happen), instead of just enjoying the present and how amazing life is.
Case in point, if you’ve been reading the past few months, you know how worried I was about getting my wisdom teeth out. Seriously, I was borderline obsessive about the darn surgery. So much so, that I missed out on truly enjoying our family spring break vacation to the fullest because I was so worried.
I think the common theme in my worrying is that I stress about the things I can’t control. Which is silly, because since I can’t control it, I shouldn’t stress about it. That’s one billion times easier said than done, but, I have the need to control everything. Not in a crazy way, but I like to lead, I like to be in-the-know and I need to know what’s on the horizon. Most of the time my worrying is centered around scenarios I make up in my head that will never happen and all of the possible “what ifs” for every situation. I need to stop!
Since I’ve truly realized how I let worrying take over my thoughts, I’ve been setting aside time each day to focus on the great things and people I have in my life and what I’m looking forward to. This is one of the reasons, I started writing and posting my five favorites for each month. I feel like time is going by so quickly and I wanted to take a timeout at the end of each month and focus on the positives to drown out any worry I may have. Additionally, each night while I brush my teeth and get ready for bed, I think about all of the things I’m grateful for and what I’m looking forward to the next day. This has done wonders for me and if you don’t already do something like this (or this), I highly suggest it. Let’s tackle our worry together!
What about you? Are you a worrier like me? How do you keep your worrying to a minimum? Let me know!
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